"Stall, Deny and Hope They Die": The VA's Unwritten Policy
Pictured is Denise. She is at Robins Air Force Base. Why? She is picking up her VA spousal ID. The problem? She is picking it up some 20+ years late. You see, Denise’s husband died of Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma (NHL) in July of 1996. As a Vietnam Veteran, her benefits were a done deal? Right. That whole presumptive thing? Just ask Mr. Nehmer. Well, if you are reading this, you probably know that the story isn’t that simple. However, what you probably won’t believe is that it took Denise over 20, yes 20, years, to finally obtain a Judge’s order granting her DIC benefits. I personally know of no other person who has litigated a case that long against the VA—continuously. She has to be a contender for the top 5. Denise calls her case "Stall, Deny and Hope They Die": - The VA's Unwritten Policy, and she wrote a book to tell you all about it!
The Rest of the Story: Annette’s Side of Things
I began pestering Annette just before Thanksgiving for some pictures of her and Monte. When I explained what I was up to, she said she didn’t mind if I used their names. I was delighted. The amount of lives you touch doing this grows rapidly. It always brings me joy to share some of these stories. You heard my side of representing Annette in my Thanksgiving post. Now, Annette gives us “the rest of the story”.
A Deserving Widow’s Thanksgiving Just got Better
It’s hard to believe another year has almost came and went. Another year representing the best people America has to offer. For me, I still get that same sense of awe and wonder. The fact that I am allowed to represent so many fine Veterans, widows, and families, across the country, brings me so much joy. Each with a unique story. This Thanksgiving, I have been able to help make one wife’s Thanksgiving a little bit easier.
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A Veteran filed an intent to file, then did exactly what VA’s letter told him to do, and VA charged him five months of back pay for it. In Hoffman v. Collins the Court struck down the regulation that allowed it. Judge Jaquith’s concurrence goes after the thing that caused it: an acknowledgment letter that is, in his word, misleading.